I love a spot of glamour. Even when I'm at my most poorly I instantly perk up with freshly washed hair, or pretty painted toenails. Grooming makes me feel good. There was an interesting debate on MamaMia this week about grooming standards after you're married or in a long-term relationship and, as usual, I didn't weigh into the comments {I swear to god every time I do my comments are misconstrued by someone and it drives me insane!} but I did think about it.
I love my husband for who he is, and am pretty sure the favour's returned. That said, I try to pretty much subscribe to the same standards of grooming I maintained when we first met. I dye my hair regularly, wax legs etc and get dolled up for any event where we go out.
And I expect the same from him {not the make-up, waxing legs etc, just maintaining standards - you know}.
We've been together 16 years now, and I've added more than a few kilos to the frame he took up with, but, aside from a little bit extra to cuddle, I'm still pretty much the gal he met.
Some may say that looks don't matter, and yes, my husband will always look gorgeous in my eyes, but you've got to maintain the standards that feel right to you. I feel erky without my legs waxed - and yes, I do consider myself a feminist! I made the political statement growing out my underarm hair in Uni and combined with goat milk deodorant and vintage polyester clothing that was a disaster that shan't be revisited.
I believe the most important thing is to do what feels right for you, and your relationship. I don't judge anyone who feels comfortable in tracky daks and uggs most of the time {I know they're comfy - they're just not for sharing with the world as far as I'm concerned}.
All the experts agree that you've got to work at your relationships - maintaining kindness, laughter, affection - lasting love's worth it.
Agreed. In private, at home, on a lazy Sunday or when we're seriously under the weather, we bust out the sweats and the unkempt hair. But for the most part, at the very least, on a home day, we get dressed in comfortable clothing thats appropriate to leave the house in, brush teeth, shower, and minimal makeup for me. With our budget as of late, we really don't go out very often but even if its just to run errands or to walmart, I dont mind throwing on a dress and cardi. The last time we went out was in late july and we made sure we were dressed up, it does wonders for state of mind, non?
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